Successful Alpha Female Relationships

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Successful Alpha Female Relationships

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In the first part of this two-part article series, I wrote about how wealthy, successful women seem to face a dilemma when it comes to choosing a partner and finding happiness in a relationship.Based on the stereotypes that the alpha male is threatened by the alpha female, and that a relationship between the two would only lead to conflict, the solution on offer for the alpha female seemed to be to choose a beta male.

So what’s the real solution?

1. Let go of the stereotypes and what you have learned before!

While opposites do attract it is also well known that after a while opposites also repel. In my work, I have come across alpha women, referred to me with depression, some married to alpha males and gave up their careers when the children came, some with beta partners and feel overwhelmed with being the one in charge, bored and want more from their partners.

I have worked with alpha men who end up in the stereotypical situation of having affairs with their secretaries – beta females. And I have also worked with alpha males who have had affairs with alpha females. So it really isn’t that straightforward after all.

2. Get to know who you really are

Successful Alpha Relationships

The kind of people we attract says a lot about who we are, about the relationship we have with ourselves and it speaks volumes about our beliefs about relationships.

3. Be clear about what you really want
This sounds easier than it is. Sometimes what we think we want is not what we really want. The only way to know, is to get really clear about your core values and purpose.

Successful Alpha Relationships

More ‘alpha men’ are becoming ’emotionally intelligent’. Emotional Intelligence is, in fact, the buzzword in executive coaching – of which the highest percentage of executives being coached are (alpha) men. I have had the privilege of working with many emotionally intelligent ‘alpha males in my coaching practice and on a personal level, I am meeting more and more men who value and prefer the ‘alpha’ female – some of the men I meet are ‘beta’ males while others are ‘alpha’ males.

4. Be clear about your expectations

Right from the start of the relationship, be clear about your expectations and the kind of ‘contract’ you agree to. It is so easy to ‘give in’ during the early days of a relationship. Once you do this, you can hardly blame your partner, later on down the line, when you later want to change that ‘unspoken contract’ can you.

Successful Alpha Female Relationships

Men are changing. There are more and more genuine ‘alpha’ men who value and appreciate what a genuine ‘alpha female’ has to offer. Though women have embraced their changing role quicker than men have, men are changing too.

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